Everyone listens…

What differentiates us is what we are listening to. When you feel like someone is not listening to you it means that you have not properly identified their focus in the conversation. They are listening. They are just not listening through the lens of your focus.

It is this returning to you of your own words, after they have found no resting place in the conversation, that introduces you to feeling alienated.

The wisdom is to see that a successful conversation always begins with identifying and listening to the focus of another. It is important to yield to the flow of another in conversation so that they can release and reveal their focus.

The benefit is so that you can perceive where they are coming from and gain their trust through sensitivity. It takes sensitivity to listen…the non-listener is devoted to insensitivity.

We all walk around in our lives full, at times even bursting with thoughts, emotions and burdens. Before we can consider another receiving our words, we have to acknowledge their focus and their need to flow from that focus…this is their need to release what is presently within them into the earth.

There is something in our DNA that compels us to leave imprints…creating a history of our presence. Even if that history means an expression of anger or jealousy. We intrinsically desire for the history of moments to account for our presence.

It is amazing to see how someone who feels as though they have been seen and heard transforms into a receiver.  More profoundly, without the presence of a ready receiver, what you have to give or share is effectively…invisible.

When we are invisible in our environments and relationships, we are living tortured lives in which peace is a foreigner.